FWP:
SETS == KYA
GAZE: {10,12}
TESTING: {4,4}
A direct, unceremonious gaze, one devoid of politeness and formality, one that might express hostility or anger-- of course that's what the lover wants. It will restore him to life. And/or it will kill him, as in {78,5} (and for that matter, as later in this ghazal, in {21,9}). The lover demands an unceremonious gaze in words and grammar so plain, straightforward and 'unceremonious' that the effect is amusingly redoubled.
Instead, he gets 'dignity-testing' [tamkii;N-aazmaa] shows of negligence and avoidance, as the beloved refuses to vouchsafe him a look. Why are her avoidances 'dignity-testing'?
=Because she is doing it sadistically, to torment him, the way a cat plays with a mouse?=Because she is doing it deliberately, according to an actual plan of 'testing', to see how he reacts?
=Because he can hardly refrain from humiliating himself by begging for a glance, since it will restore him to life?=Because he is impatiently awaiting the swift, remorseless fatality of a single full look, and he knows he is worthy of a clean death, as in a bullfight?
The pleasure of the verse is the ambiguity of both be-mu;haabaa (which leaves open the possibility of cruelty as
well as enjoyment) and tamkii;N-aazmaa (which leaves
open the question of how the dignity is being tested, and whether deliberately
or inadvertently).
Nazm:
In order to see into my heart, and test my self-control, what is this manner of averting your eyes? (22)
== Nazm page 22